Right Now

The problem with not writing very often is that so much has happened since the last time I wrote I don’t know where to start.  So I guess the best place to start is just right freaking now.  Now.  This very moment I am sitting in my cozy living room with Harley, watching the movie Logan and smelling the mouth-watering roast that has been cooking all day.

Out the window I see signs of spring on a wintery day.  It’s April 15th and it’s 30 degrees outside but it feels like 17.  Our weeping willow tree is barely showing sweet little leaves that have probably just frozen their nuts off.  Yes, I know weeping willows don’t have nuts.  But if they did, they would be freezing them off … literally and figuratively.

Rocket is running around like a psycho chasing a HUGE fly that somehow managed to escape the freezing weather and get inside.  It’s so big I think I can see it’s fur.  Three days ago it was 80 degrees and we had the air conditioning on and we had to switch it right from the A/C over to the heat.  Rocket can be a spaz, but when it comes to fly-hunting, he is right up there with Mr. Miyagi.  You remember him … the patient, chop-stick-wielding, fly-hunting karate teacher in The Karate Kid?  I think Rocket must be Mr. Miyagi’s spirit animal.  Anyhoo …We have basically experienced all four seasons in the last day and a half.

Speaking of the seasons, I think it was summer the last time I posted.  There have been some major changes since then … Trixie married Prince Charming, Bam-Bam proposed to Powerpuff and Clark was promoted to Sargent in the Marines.  Our little family is getting bigger and going places!

But right now.  I took a break from writing for Sunday dinner.  Right now, the dishes are done and Harley and I are settled in front of the fireplace waiting for the season finale of The Walking Dead to start. Powerpuff and Bam-Bam are working on their coloring book masterpieces.  PSA – I bought a grown-up coloring book and a pack of colored pencils last weekend and it’s quickly become part of our Sunday family dinner tradition.

But right now.  Right now the evening is drawing to a close … the cloudy sky is morphing from a cold, silvery-gray into a dark, starless night.  The shadows slowly swallow up the backyard and turn it into a pool of  inky darkness.  It’s cold outside.  The wind flecks sleet against the windows.  But inside we are close and warm.  The fireplace glows against the faces I love.  Right now I am happy.  Right now.




Family Foundations

The older we get, the more things we lose … car keys, sunglasses, height, memory, to name a few.  The other things we tend to lose are much more precious … pets, friends, parents, family.  The older I get the more I cherish the latter. We all do.  Earlier this summer my family lost one of my cousins and our hearts are broken. We may not have seen a lot of each other in the recent past, but there is another hole in our family and we will never be the same.

It saddens me for opportunities lost and memories that will not me made that would have included her.  While talking with my other cousins, one of them mentioned that we need to start making plans to get together again instead of waiting for another family funeral.  One of them said that if we don’t start doing something, our family is going to fall apart.  The torch doesn’t pass from one generation to another if you are passive.  It only passes if you make the effort.

My beautiful Mumsies with one of my aunts and a cuzzie … back in the day

Today my cousins are coming to my house.  It’s just a small group, but we feel like it is a start.  We have common childhood memories and we all have different stories about the same people and I can’t wait to reconnect.  In this day and age of technology and social media it’s easy to become lazy about making time for the important people in your life.  REAL time. But if we don’t make the effort, then the measure of what is lost will be gone forever.

I hope that one day we will be able to rebuild again what our parents made for us. The foundation of a family.  We all already have the immediate family foundations, but I I’m talking about the larger picture … generations of the same family who know each other, love each other and who are there for each other.  Forever.